I’m not a party planner

So when the excitement of getting engaged settles down, the reality of being engaged sets in. Whether I like it or not, because I am not loaded and even if I were wouldn’t choose to frivolously toss money way, I have the responsibility of planning the biggest event of my life without any professional assistance.  Ahhh, anxiety, pressure, bewilderment……

First step, pick a church and set a date. Tim belongs to St. Malachy church in Brownsburg, I am a member of St. Mary’s parish downtown.  Both have great pastors that we would be honored to have preside over the sacrament but we decised that because of its central location and grandly ornate design, which appeals to our appreciation for history and tradition, St. Mary’s church on New York St. and New Jersey St. in the heart of downtown Indianapolis is the perfect place to exchange our vows. The date we chose, October 2nd, really had more to do with practicality than anything else. Fall, this one in particular, seems to be a very popular time to get married. By the time we got engaged, the calandar was already filling up fast. It came down to just a couple of dates that might work and 10/2/10 was available and, well to be honest, its catchy! And I must say we both look forward to the ease a decade year will provide in remembering which year’s anniversary we are celebrating when the years all begin to run together

When you announce your engagement the next words out of everyone’s mouths are “where, when, and how many people”. Its pretty much impossible to move forward in the reception planning process without the later 2 questions answered. We figured out when, which left the task of fighting about, I mean discussing, the guestlist. Anyone who has ever planned an event, specifically a wedding, on any kind of budget knows that this is a very delicate process.  I won’t try to sugar coat this, the process was far from smooth for Tim and I. I will say, however, that we definately learned a lot about how to have “big discussions” in our relationship. An important skill to master in marriage, and one we’ll no doubt have more opportunities to hone.

Next with date and guestlist narrowed down, let the venue shopping begin. I can in no way take credit for the leg work and analysis is this phase of planning. Tim truly and utterly amazed, well amazes me still, in his organized and thorough data collection and interpretation. He is a true engineer. This man put every detail from each venue into a variable spreadsheet so we could easily see which venue met all of our needs/desires in comparison to our price range. Basically, he made it possible for us to make the best possible decision for this very important, and very expensive, celebration of our new life together. And I believe we did just that, made the best possible decision! Wooooohoooooo!

Now the fun stuff begins. The asthetic details that give the event our flair and personality. The dresses for my lovely bridesmaids, the beautiful flowers that we will carry, the oh so important entertainment and so on……

burnt orange, wine, golden yellow are the general color scheme. Fall is the feeling!

 

 

 

 

< Bridesmaid dress possibility.

Delicate, intricate, vintage accessories>

Now the wedding dress is one thing that will remain a secret. I will say though, that I am honored to be wearing my mom’s! And as of now thats as far as we’ve gotten…..

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